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Nov 2024
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206. From Fearful to Fierce: How to Buil...

SUSAN CALLENDER
About this episode

In today’s episode we tackle the habit of seeking approval. We all know the relief and reassurance that come with a pat on the back from a boss, client, or friend. But when we rely on that approval to feel confident and capable, we’re setting ourselves up for dependence, self-doubt, and stalled growth. True confidence is built from within, not handed out by others.

Through this episode, you'll discover:

  • Why seeking external validation keeps you stuck and prevents real growth.
  • Inspiring stories from my clients who shifted from approval-seeking to fierce self-belief—and the profound impact it had on their careers.
  • Practical strategies to stop depending on others’ opinions and start trusting yourself, including learning to set boundaries with feedback and redefining failure as growth.
  • The 5 transformative steps to self-confidence that will help you reclaim your power, make quicker decisions, and show up unapologetically in any room.

If you’re ready to stop letting the need for approval control your choices, this episode is a must-listen!

Resources to further your learning:

1.   The Confidence Code by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman – A fantastic read on building self-confidence and understanding how validation impacts us, especially in professional environments.

2.   Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach – This book explores the importance of self-approval and letting go of the need for external validation.

3.   Dare to Lead by Brené Brown – Brown’s insights on vulnerability and confidence provide powerful tools for building self-trust and resilience.

 

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