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May 6
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195. How To Regulate & Feel Safe When Yo...

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

This episode is your gentle but powerful reminder: people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. And yes—that truth can set you free. Alissa invites you into a much-needed conversation about the discomfort of being misunderstood, the fear of judgment, and how to find emotional safety within yourself. If you've ever spiraled after a group text or overanalyzed a social media post, this one's for you. Learn how to reclaim your peace and stop outsourcing your self-worth!

What you'll learn:

  • Why your fear of judgment often comes from an old wound—and how to heal it
  • How to stop placing your self-worth in the hands of others
  • The mindset shift that will free you from overthinking every interaction
  • Tools to help you feel safe when you're misunderstood
  • Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—and how to survive it
  • How to build your internal sense of validation as an HSP
  • The power of expanding your “window of tolerance” for stress
  • What emotional self-regulation really looks like in everyday life
  • How to break free from the prison of perfectionism and people-pleasing
  • Why authenticity will always feel better than approval


Questions answered in this episode:

  • How do I stop overthinking after social situations?
  • Why do I care so much about how others perceive me?
  • What do I do when I feel like people are judging me?
  • How can I build confidence as a highly sensitive person?
  • What’s the difference between healthy validation and needing approval?
  • Why do I get triggered by being left out or overlooked?
  • How do I heal past wounds that make me feel “not good enough”?
  • What practices can help me regulate when I feel overwhelmed by judgment?
  • How do I stop playing small out of fear?
  • Can I really feel confident without needing others to approve of me?


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