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May 2025
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392. You Are Not the Reference Point (Gr...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Do you find yourself getting frustrated when others don’t see things exactly as you do? When this happens and we’re activated, afraid, or overwhelmed, we often assume our perspective is the only “correct” one. This rigidity creates tension in relationships, leaving us feeling isolated and misunderstood. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I’m revisiting a concept I call “You Are Not The Reference Point.” The key is realizing that your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors aren’t the standard by which everyone else should be measured. When we allow space for others’ perspectives, we open the door to better communication, greater acceptance, and less judgment. It’s a game-changer for any relationship!


Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/392

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