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Apr 2025
20m 25s

Compassion Isn’t Dangerous

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

We’ve been taught to fear compassion. That if we’re too soft, our kids will be too weak—unable to handle the “real world.” But what if that’s exactly backwards?

In this episode, Dr. Becky flips the script on one of parenting’s biggest myths: that compassion makes kids fragile. She shows how the compassion we offer our kids becomes the model for how they treat themselves—teaching them self-compassion, emotional regulation, and real resilience.

If you’ve ever worried that being too gentle means you’re doing it wrong, this episode is your permission to rethink everything—and your guide to raising emotionally sturdy, grounded kids.

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