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Apr 22
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Episode 108: You Don’t Have to Do This A...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

So many people in eating disorder recovery believe they have to earn support — by being sicker, quieter, or more perfect. But what if that’s the very belief that’s been keeping healing out of reach?

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I gently but powerfully unravel the dangerous myth that you have to do recovery alone. I share openly — including from my own lived experience — why support isn’t a luxury, but a lifeline. We explore the emotional roots of the belief ‘I don’t deserve help,’ how emotional neglect shapes our nervous systems, and the neuroscience of connection as medicine.

You’ll also hear, for the first time in depth, about the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle — the supportive, compassionate membership space I created for those ready to move beyond survival and build true food freedom, body trust, and self-worth. This isn’t a sales pitch. It’s an invitation.

Whether you're just starting recovery or stuck in a quiet kind of suffering, this episode is a hand to hold. You are allowed to be supported. And you never have to do this alone.

Inside this episode:

  • The biggest lie eating disorders tell us about support

  • How emotional neglect wires your brain to reject help

  • Why “I’m fine” often means “I’m surviving, not living”

  • The healing power of being seen, supported and understood

  • What’s waiting for you inside the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle

✨ If this stirred something in you, you’ll find everything you need to join the Circle and begin receiving support in the link below. Your place is already waiting. You are worthy — now.

LINKS:Join the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

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