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Apr 15
19m 55s

F*ck Around and Find Out Parenting

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
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“F*ck Around and Find Out” parenting—what even is that?! This week, Dr. Becky dives into the rise of the FAFO parenting trend. Why is this approach gaining traction in the age of gentle parenting? Is it a pushback against gentle or intensive parenting? A response to the burnout many millennial parents are feeling? Or has it always been around, just under a different name? Dr. Becky explores what makes this trend so compelling and what it might reveal about us as parents today.

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