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Apr 2
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Stop the Cycle: How to Handle Conflict a...

Rhoda Sommer on Relationships
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Couples never fighting, means at least one person is catering too much by swallowing their disagreement, which makes things so not interesting. So it may have the appearance of constant joy, but underneath, unspoken resentments are piling up because pretending the differences are not there doesn't work over the long haul. Listen & learn how to make conflict be respectful and not destructive. 

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