logo
episode-header-image
Nov 2024
11m 1s

Leaders Look For Conflict

Scott Smith - Motivation and Coaching
About this episode

Leaders Look For Conflict


I admit that the title, 'Leaders Look for Conflict,' might be a bit over-the-top. But, I know that you want to be a better leader. I also know that you hate and don't want anything to do with conflict - especially since I can hear you saying —


"Why can't we all get along?"


I get it. Saying the word "No" is hard enough. Saying "Yes" when others agree or disagree with your choice can be more difficult.


"Why can't we all get along?"


The answer is that we can. However, the truth is that conflict will always happen whenever more than two people get together. Especially when there is a common goal and everyone is on the same page. Conflict will always play a role in your success.


What?


We're on the same page, agree with each other, and want the same result, but there's still conflict.


"Why can't we all get along?"


It's not that. It's just that no matter how positive your project is, everybody has a different idea of how to reach the outcome. Everybody has a different right way and wrong way.


As a leader, things change when you approach conflict as a simple “Y” on the road to progress. It becomes a decision that is part of the process and leads to the outcome everybody desires.

Leaders, managers, moms and dads - anyone responsible for moving forward eventually learns to accept conflict.


Leaders don't get emotionally fired up, yell and scream, or freak out in some other creative way. Conflict is another step in the process.


The faster you accept conflict, the sooner you can resolve the obstacle and reach your goal. Everybody will respect and appreciate you. They will also remember you for helping all involved achieve success.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Up next
Today
Old School Productivity Rules That Actually Work
Daily Boost Podcast Show Notes Old School Productivity Rules That Actually Work August 25, 2025 | Episode 5166 Host: Scott Smith Episode Description Scott's fired up about productivity today, but not in the way you think. Forget your fancy Notion documents and complicated systems ... Show More
14m 43s
Aug 22
3-Step Framework That Forces Instant Focus
Daily Boost Podcast Show Notes 3-Step Framework That Forces Instant Focus August 22, 2025 | Episode 5165 Host: Scott Smith Episode Description Scott breaks down why everyone's obsessed with finding their "why" when they should be focused on getting crystal clear about their "what ... Show More
11m 35s
Aug 21
Stop Working on Your Life (Do This Instead)
Daily Boost Podcast Show Notes Stop Working on Your Life (Do This Instead) August 21, 2025 | Episode - 5164 Host: Scott Smith Episode Description Scott shares wisdom from an unexpected roadside conversation during his North Carolina motorcycle trip. When a young rider asked for l ... Show More
12m 19s
Recommended Episodes
Jan 2025
The Science Of Conflict Resolution | Dr. Jim Guinn
In today's episode, we discuss the art and science of conflict resolution with Dr. Jim Guinn, a renowned expert in mediation and interpersonal dynamics. As the president of the Resolution Resource Group, Dr. Guinn has worked with Fortune 500 companies, government organizations, a ... Show More
1h 6m
Jan 2025
Negotiating Disagreement | Robert Bordone & Joel Salinas
In today's episode, we dive into the science of managing conflict and building resilience with Bob Bordone and Joel Salinas, two thought leaders in negotiation and emotional intelligence. Bob Bordone, a senior fellow and former professor at Harvard Law School, is the founder of t ... Show More
1h 4m
Apr 2025
Stop the Cycle: How to Handle Conflict and Reduce Resentments
Couples never fighting, means at least one person is catering too much by swallowing their disagreement, which makes things so not interesting. So it may have the appearance of constant joy, but underneath, unspoken resentments are piling up because pretending the differences are ... Show More
36m 2s
Mar 2025
The Opinion Wars: Can we really "agree to disagree"?
This Isn't Therapy... it's a follow up to last week's episode about the attention wars. In this episode, we explore the concept of "agree to disagree" and how there seems to be a war of opinions playing out in our culture. Is it really possible to find common ground when opinions ... Show More
47m 51s
Mar 2025
A fresh approach to resolving conflicts | Darya Shaikh
Conflict is an unavoidable part of any relationship. But what if the point of arguing isn't to win, but rather to grow from the experience? Facilitator Darya Shaikh presents a powerful framework for managing conflicts, showing how you can navigate complex conversations and identi ... Show More
9m 14s
May 26
Jim Guinn on Preventing Conflict: How to Get Along with Anyone at Work and Home
In this episode, Jim Guinn, co-author of How to Get Along with Anyone: The Playbook for Predicting and Preventing Conflict at Work and at Home, joins the show to discuss the art of conflict prevention. Jim, an expert in mediation and conflict resolution, shares practical tools fo ... Show More
39m 46s
Nov 2024
370. How to Handle Disagreement Better
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a disagreement that feels like it’s going nowhere, just looping around the same points? Maybe it’s because deep down, you believe the only way to "resolve" it is if the other person totally agrees with you—or you have to surrender and agree w ... Show More
16m 52s
Jun 30
Trained to Lead People - One of Four Leader Prerequisites
"Send me a text message and let me know what you think of the First-Time Leaders Accelerated℠ Podcast."Often leader candidates don’t receive proper people-centered leader training? You can learn to be a leader in a classroom, but you can’t become a leader in the classroom. There ... Show More
6m 29s
Jul 24
Doing Conflict Better: Lars Borgmann
In this episode, ISTA facilitator Usha Rose speaks with systemic therapist and transformational guide Lars Borgmann about how to engage in conflict with others in a better way. As Lars explains, conflict can occur in any area of our lives, but our experiences of it are often so u ... Show More
53m 55s
Nov 2024
How to Have Difficult Conversations in a Polarized World
In a world marked by war and political polarization, it can certainly feel at times like we have all lost touch with the art of compromise – the wisdom to recognize that real progress demands sacrifice. Except, that’s not entirely true. Dr. Sanjay Gupta sits down with social psyc ... Show More
41m 41s