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Mar 2025
41m 29s

When People Reveal Themselves—Let Them

Violet Benson
About this episode

Buckle up besties, because we’re removing the love goggles, dry-heaving over mixed signals, and finally realizing your soulmate is not the guy who ghosted you after “accidentally” falling into another woman’s vagina. Oopsies.

In today’s spicy little episode, ’m diving into the chapter that should be tattooed on every situationship survivor's forehead: Let Them Show You Who They Are from Mel Robbins’ book The Let Them Theory. This episode is for anyone confused, delusional, freshly dumped, or just in need of a no-bullsh*t reminder that love shouldn’t feel like a cryptic puzzle from a 2009 Tumblr post. If they wanted to, they would—and if they didn’t, they won’t. Period.

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