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Mar 2025
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142 - But what if I freeze when all eyes...

Cat Matson
About this episode

“Cat, I recently FROZE, completely froze, when the MC introduced me to talk. I was prepared, I knew my topic, but my nerves got the better of me and I froze. How do I NOT freeze next time?”

That’s the conversation that has sparked this episode, and I’m recounting the advice I gave in a recent group call.

Freezing on stage is a ‘normal’ response - it’s part of the nervous system’s fight, flight or freeze response.

If you’ve ever frozen when asked a question, or about to present, or you fear you might, listen in to hear:


  • My simple nervous system regulation techniques for calming your nerves

  • How to engage in a useful and compassionate conversation with your internal dialogue (that is screaming at you when you’re nervous)

  • Why experiencing the freeze response is NOT a reason to never speak up again

  • How having a standard start to your presentation can help ‘jump-start’ you, even if you do freeze

    • The mistake nervous speakers make that actually make their nerves WORSE


    Other episodes mentioned:

    7 - Overcoming 'Why Me' - how to manage Imposter Syndrome

    33 - A deep dive into my Earn-the-Right framework in the Speaking with Impact workshop

    Want to make a bigger impact in your world but your words, or your nerves, let you down?

    Join my Impact Club to get the skills, confidence and advice you need. With two group coaching calls every month and always-on online support, it’s an affordable way to get top-level support.

    Visit https://www.impactfulpresenters.com/courses/the-impact-club

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