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Mar 2025
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#445 How to Build a Healthier Relationsh...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships.

From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

  • What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money

  • How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions

  • Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame

  • And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life

Timestamps:
00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money
00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert
01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs
04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management
06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice
08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights
10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health
19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts
23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money
24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics
28:39 – Understanding Money Stories
33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers
36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals
42:12 – Conclusion and Resources

I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out!

Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money! 

Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there!

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

 

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