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Mar 2025
59m 52s

128: Why Men REALLY Pull Away—The Truth ...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
Ever feel like dating is one giant guessing game? You meet a guy, everything’s great—until suddenly, he's pulling away. Or maybe you keep hearing, "You're amazing, but I just don't feel the spark."

What the hell is actually going on in their heads?

In this episode, I sit down with Connell Barrett, a men’s dating coach who’s been in the trenches himself. We’re cutting through the bullshit and getting into why men struggle with dating, what makes them lose interest, and what actually makes them want to stay. If you've ever felt like you're doing everything "right" but still hitting a wall, this one's for you.

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