Even if you’ve done a lot of work on yourself, feel confident and seated in yourself, there can be new situations when you recon with an unexpected and uncomfortable need to please or be liked by others that even if you disagree with it logically– can betray your intellect. This is a response that is often triggered by new social situations or conditions tha ... Show More
Sep 11
Ep 239: The Safe Container: Moving from Healed + Higher
The hardest thing to do is be guided by the highest self versus the weakest, triggered self. The weakest self wants a fix: wants to self-soothe in the face of a low feeling. When we can create a strong routine and a safe container, we can be guided by our highest, wisest self and ... Show More
45m 10s
Apr 2025
99. Why You're Probably Still People Pleasing
People pleasing, or authenticity suppression as we like to call it, is a natural adaptive mechanism humans have used for centuries to attain approval, acceptance, and ultimately, safety. While in conscious, small doses this social mirroring can help us feel connected and related ... Show More
46m 38s
Sep 2024
Letting Go of the Need for Approval from Others – In Session with Marc David
If you're of a certain age, you've probably noticed that young people – teenagers, especially – have a strong need for approval from others. Young adults want to fit in and feel accepted, a natural desire that is part of our normal developmental process at this stage of life. Fee ... Show More
38m 56s
Aug 2023
Are You A People-Pleaser?
In this week's episode, Gareth and Kim dissect the deep-rooted and universally prevalent habit of people-pleasing. It's something nearly everyone can relate to, and many really struggle with. For many, setting boundaries can be daunting, and the act of saying 'no' can be intertwi ... Show More
35m 44s
Feb 2024
#587: Wanting People to Like You: How to Feel Confident in Any Social Situation
You want to be liked, and at the core, you know people like you, but you still wonder if you fit in and if people really like you. You've accepted that there will be people who don't like you, but you still wish that you could be cooler or feel like you belong more than you do, a ... Show More
35m 37s