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Jun 2023
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Plugging Into The Energy Source Of Self-...

PATRICK KING
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00:05:11 Step 1: Be Aware of What You Feel

00:09:47 Step 2: Normalize

00:11:52 Step 3: Tell the Truth

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• When we engage in people-pleasing, we are trying to extract validation, approval, and liking from other people. However, self-validation is the ability to provide all these things for ourselves.

• We create self-validation when we acknowledge and accept how we feel without judgment, normalize that feeling, then speak the truth about it.


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