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Feb 2025
40m 57s

#442 When Therapy For Breakups Backfires...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:

  • The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups

  • The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)

  • Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)

  • The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles

Timestamps:

00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!)

00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery

02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist

15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck

24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!)

26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?)

34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources

I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. 

That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. 

And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! 

Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

 

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