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Feb 2025
55m 18s

Is Your Attachment Style RUINING YOUR RE...

Zainab Al Yakoob and Mia Al Abdulrazzak
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This week, we’re getting emotionally unhinged—aka, breaking down attachment styles and why some of us cling while others run for the hills. From Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized, we’re exposing how these play out in different relationships. We’re also diving into generational trauma, toxic patterns, and whether we can actually change (or if we’re just doomed). Plus, we’re putting ourselves on blast and roasting our own attachment styles—because why not? All this and more in this week’s episode!

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