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Feb 2025
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Why Are Female Friendships SO Hard?! How...

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What's up my homies, it's your girl Lisa Bilyeu and welcome back to another amazing episode of Women of Impact!


Alright, today’s topic is one that literally EVERY single one of us battles with at some point—LONELINESS! And trust me, it’s more harmful than not exercising, smoking, or obesity. Yep, it’s THAT serious. But don’t worry, coz today, I am PUMPED to dive into this and share with you the incredible stories of how my gal pals and I have been able to forge STRONG friendships as adults.


I’m talking those ride-or-die squads we all need to keep us sane, happy, and living our best lives. You know these ladies if you've been tuning in—my girl Martha Higareda, the always insightful Danielle Canty, the ever-loving Audrey Hussey, and, of course, the fabulous Radhi Devlukia-Shetty are all in the house sharing their own struggles and triumphs.


So, have you ever felt the sting of competition creeping into your friendships, or maybe had that awkward “uh-oh” moment when a guy steps into the picture? Maybe you’re navigating different lifestyles with your besties, like trying to balance married life while your friends are still rocking the single life? You are NOT alone, homie!


We’ve all shaded those tough convos and moments when you have to tell your friend that the guy she’s dating is giving off some mega sketchy vibes—how do you bring it up? How do you set those all-important boundaries without blowing up a perfectly good friendship?


Well, today we’re laying it all on the table, from envy and competition to toxic relationships and beyond. So, buckle up, hold tight to your squad, and let’s navigate this tricky terrain of adult friendships together in this vibe-filled episode of Women of Impact!


SHOWNOTES

10:19 Handling jealousy and insecurity in friendships

14:26 Balancing personal success and friendship dynamics

18:21 Solutions for minimizing envy and competition

23:31 The grandmother hypothesis and women’s value as they age

33:12 Lisa's "Am I the Mean Girl" segment

37:27 Navigating friendships while staying true to values and boundaries


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