Struggling to get your child to open up? Discover 8 key reasons kids resist sharing their feelings—and actionable strategies to create real connection.
Why Your Child Won’t Open Up—and What You Can Do
As parents, we deeply want to support our children, but when we ask, “What’s wrong?” and get silence or resistance in return, it can feel frustrating and confusing. Why won’t they just tell us what’s going on? Whether your child is too young to articulate their emotions, brushes off your questions, or reacts with defiance, you’re not alone.
In this episode of Your Parenting Mojo, we explore the real reasons children struggle to express their feelings and how we, as parents, might unintentionally make it harder for them to share. You’ll learn practical, connection-based strategies to shift these dynamics, helping your child feel safe enough to open up—without forcing the conversation.
The episode builds on the ideas in my book Parenting Beyond Power: How to Use Connection and Collaboration to Transform Your Family - and the World.
Questions This Episode Will Answer:
- Why does my child shut down when I ask about their feelings?
- How can I encourage my child to express emotions—even if they can't or don't speak?
- Could how I talk to them make them less likely to share?
- How should I respond when they say, “I don’t care” or “Stop talking like that”?
- How can I build long-term trust so they confide in me more?
- What common parenting habits discourage open communication without us realizing it?
- What strategies can I use to make problem-solving conversations feel safe and collaborative?
What You’ll Learn in This Episode
- 8 key reasons why kids resist sharing their emotions.
- How to recognize when your child wants to open up but doesn’t know how.
- The hidden impact of parenting focused on getting the child to behave correctly—and how to shift toward emotional connection.
- How to reframe conversations so your child knows you see, know, and love them for who they really are.
- Actionable tools to help your child feel safe expressing their emotions.
Taming Your Triggers
If you see that your relationship with your child isn’t where you want it to be because:
- you’re feeling triggered a lot by your kids’ behavior...
- they’re not willing to share how they’re feeling with you because they’re afraid of your reaction...
- they think you’ll just try to get THEM to change...
... then the Taming Your Triggers workshop will help you.