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Feb 2025
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#439 How To Be a Better Communicator wit...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? 

I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. 

Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

Chapters:
00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue
00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru
07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game
08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions
17:31 - What really works in tough conversations
28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you
31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

 

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