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Jan 2025
49m 13s

The gradual shift from who you were to w...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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The person you were before the difficult relationship almost always looks and feels different than the person you became while in the difficult relationship. And losing that part of yourself may make you think there's no way back. Sometimes, you can't even remember who you used to be. 

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