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Jan 2025
1h 20m

6 Ingredients You Need to Build a Lifeti...

Layla Martin
About this episode

Shownotes

 

  • Why 1+1=3 in love and relationships

  • The 6 ingredients to build a lifetime of love

  • Why attunement is one of the most powerful tools

  • Dr. Nasserzadeh’s “soak together before you sink together” method

  • How to show up with compassion even if you don’t understand someone

  • Sexual harmony vs sexual chemistry

 

Bio

 

Building world peace, one relationship at a time is the mission of Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh, a globally renowned and award-winning author, speaker and relationship expert. With a PhD in Social Psychology and specialization in the fields of human sexuality and relationships, Dr. Nasserzadeh has worked with a countless number of individuals, couples and organizational clients across 41 countries to enhance relational health and a sense of thriving at micro and macro levels. 

 

Dr. Nasserzadeh is a senior Accredited Member and a Registered Supervisor by the College of Sex and Relationship Therapists in the UK (COSRT) and a Sexuality Counselor and Approved Training provider by the American Association for Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT). She is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist in California. 

 

Dr. Nasserzadeh has been a sought-after cultural advisor, speaker and expert facilitator at high profile events hosted by governmental organizations, UN Agencies, academic institutions and Fortune 500 companies. Her third book, Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love, is the result of her two-decade-long research on the status of thriving relationships and its key ingredients, namely: attraction, respect, trust, shared vision, compassion, and loving behaviors. Dr. Nasserzadeh’s work has been featured on NPR, the BBC, ABC, CNN and USA Today.

 

Timestamps

 

00:01:57 - Guest introduction

00:03:25 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s responsibility and role as a relationship expert

00:06:53 - Our disillusion with love as a society

00:08:28 - Why Dr. Nasserzadeh says 1+1=3 in love

00:09:43 - Sign up for Layla’s newsletter at LaylaMartin.com

00:13:12 - The system of a partnership is greater than the sum of us

00:15:12 - If you don’t pay attention to the cracks, they become ledges

00:17:39 - How to be happy with what is instead of chasing dopamine

00:20:45 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s concept of JOMO vs FOMO

00:23:02 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification 

00:26:06 - The 6 ingredients to build a lifetime of love

00:30:38 - Dr. Nasserzadeh describes The Platinum Rule

00:32:59 - How to apply the 6 ingredients to your relationship

00:36:27 - Why it’s so important to cheer on your partner

00:38:07 - Discover MOOD™ Sexy Supplements

00:39:16 - Get Layla’s free Orgasmic Breathwork Practice for deeper pleasure

00:40:25 - Unlock your deepest passion inside The Tantric Mastermind for Couples

00:43:33 - The way you respect yourself is how others respect you

00:48:42 - Why attunement is one of the most powerful tools

00:55:08 - Trauma shifts your nervous system into hypervigilance

00:56:40 - Dr. Nasserzadeh’s “soak together before you sink together” method

01:01:38 - How to show up with compassion even if you don’t understand someone

01:04:06 - Expand your pleasure potential with Obliss Women’s Sexual Masterclass

01:05:40 - How to build trust with your partner

01:10:10 - Sexual harmony vs sexual chemistry

01:12:38 - Everyone deserves to be in the loving relationship they desire

01:18:56 - Conclusion

 

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