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Jan 2025
10m 41s

Ep. 273 - How to stop comparing your new...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

If you’ve found yourself comparing your new relationship to your ex, you're not alone—and it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re not over them. In this episode, I break down two powerful steps to help you move past those comparisons and focus on what truly matters: creating clarity and deeper connection in your current partnership. Whether you're sabotaging a great relationship, feeling like something is missing, or stuck in a conflict with your new partner, this episode will help you take the right actions to build the relationship you deserve. Tune in to find out how to stop looking back and start moving forward!

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