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Jan 2025
25m 20s

#233: Motivating Yourself with Self-Love...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Self-criticism is NOT a good long-term motivation strategy. Let’s talk about how to motivate yourself with self-compassion instead.


Tune in to learn...

  • Why you might be feeling de-motivated
  • A technique called “10 WHYs” to find intrinsic motivators
  • How to employ self-discipline (but not in the way that you think…)
  • Tools to find and create motivation through a lens of SELF-LOVE


Remember: You don’t need to wait until you’re perfectly motivated to start taking action. Imperfect, messy, reluctant action will often be enough to prove to yourself that you CAN do it, that you DO have it in you which creates a positive feedback loop. Micro steps matter.


If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary's book, The Gift of Self-Love. It’s a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.


Mentioned In This Episode... 

Self-Compassion Researcher Dr. Kristin Neff on Mary's Cup of Tea  

The Mere Presence of One’s Own Smartphone Reduces Available Cognitive Capacity Research Study

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