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Oct 2024
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Ep #324: Being Assertive With Yourself

KIRSTIN SARFDE
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Being hard on yourself is not useful. It doesn’t motivate you, it just makes you feel bad. And if you’re aware of this, you might know that it’s recommended that you be kind and compassionate with yourself instead. But sometimes, that’s not going to be helpful either. In certain moments, it’s going to be so much more useful for you to be assertive with yourself. Why? And why does that mean? Listen in to find out so you can create the determination and drive you need to actually do the things you want to be doing.

 

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