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Jan 2025
33m 28s

Optimizing Happiness with Laurie Santos

DR. BECKY KENNEDY
About this episode

Every parent wants their kid to be happy and to grow up into a happy adult. But sometimes, a parent's intervention in the short term can lead to their kid becoming an unhappy adult in the long term. Yale professor, scientist, and podcast host, Dr. Laurie Santos, joins Dr. Becky to talk about happiness and the difference between optimizing for happiness in the moment and optimizing for happiness in the future. 

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