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Jan 2025
13m 31s

Why Being Yourself Is Ruining Your Life

Scott Lynch
About this episode

"Just be yourself." It’s the feel-good mantra printed on mugs, sprinkled across Instagram captions, and echoed in graduation speeches. But is it actually good advice—or just a comforting illusion? In this episode, I unpack the hidden dangers of this celebrated cliché and why striving to "be yourself" might be holding you back.

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Past guests on The Motivated Mind include Chris Voss, Captain Sandy, Dr. Chris Palmer, Joey Thurman, Jason Harris, Koshin Paley Ellison, Rudy Mawer, Molly Fletcher, Kristen Butler, Hasard Lee, Natasha Graziano, ⁠David Hauser⁠, Cheryl Hunter, Michael Brandt, Heather Moyse, Tim Shriver, and Alan Stein, Jr.

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