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Dec 2024
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438: Holiday Special: How to Make Peace ...

MICHELLE CHALFANT
About this episode

You’re here today, doing the work, living from your Adult Chair, becoming who you want to become. 

It feels really good. But as we live and grow and transform, it can sometimes bring up negative feelings about our past.

Whether we made mistakes, missed opportunities, were hurt by someone or experienced a life-altering loss, every one of us has something about our past we wish we could change.

Regret can cut deep – into our very souls – and bring a lot of pain, shame and blame with it. 

But whenever we live in regret, it causes us to miss another opportunity: the chance to make the most of the moment we have right now. 

In this show, I’m giving you three common reasons we get stuck in the past and six ways to make peace with your past and start living in the present moment. 

You will gain a new perspective on your past and learn to reframe it so you can rewire your brain to live without regret.

Listen to discover:

  • 3 reasons we get stuck in the past (and what to do about them)
  • Why living in present reality is so much better than past reality
  • How to reframe how you think about your past
  • 6 ways to make peace with your past

Remember, today will soon become your past. Will you look back and wish you hadn’t spent it stuck in regret? Or will you make the most of the moment and use the power you have right now to be who you want to be today?

The present moment is such a powerful reality to live in.

It's here that we find peace and joy. It’s here that we have the ability to make this moment one we won't regret.

 

“The decision that we made in that moment, I don’t care how old you were…the person that we were in that moment, we were showing up the very, very best that we could.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“97% of the time, our assumptions are incorrect.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“Things that happened in our past, no matter if it’s a death or someone has done something to us or we made mistakes, it can be difficult to move on, but it’s possible.” - Michelle Chalfant

 

“When we live in the moment, it’s a much different reality. It’s almost as if the world opens up.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“Living in the past is like having an anchor tied around our waist trying to move forward.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“What I’m giving you today are ways to move you forward into the moment.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“When we don’t feel our emotions around something, guess what? It keeps us stuck.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“When we block our emotions, we’re blocking ourselves.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“Forgiveness releases the hold that the past has on you.” - Michelle Chalfant 

 

“When we get in the habit of going back and beating up on ourselves or being mad about someone else…what we do is we form these neural pathways, and they are not healthy. It’s like we set the roadmap in our brains to go back and beat up on self.” - Michelle Chalfant 

Resources from this Episode

 

michellechalfant.com/52weeks for the 52 Week Online Journal. 

 

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The Adult Chair® Website

https://theadultchair.com   

 

Membership: The Academy of Awakening

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Instagram 

https://www.instagram.com/themichellechalfant 

 

Facebook

https://www.facebook.com/TheMichelleChalfant/ 

 

The Adult Chair® Facebook Group

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theadultchair/ 

 

YouTube

https://www.youtube.com/c/Michellechalfant

 

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