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Dec 2024
52m 51s

No Regrets, The Case Against Empathy, an...

MARK MANSON
About this episode

This week, we dive headfirst into the messy, uncomfortable topic of regret. From the aches and grays that come with hitting a new decade to the deeper realizations about relationships, selfish mistakes, and missed opportunities, we unpack how regret shapes who we are. And there's a twist: what if regret isn’t something to fear or avoid? What if it’s a tool for growth? I share my own stories of taking people for granted, self-destructive habits, and the lessons I’ve learned about self-forgiveness and choosing your regrets wisely.


We also tackle some fascinating questions about whether empathy is actually good for society. Is it always a good thing, or can it sometimes lead us astray? To round things off, we share our thoughts on AI and its impact on creativity and human connection.


Enjoy.


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Chapters

01:14 The F*ck of the Week: No Regrets?

19:36 Brilliant or Bullsh*t: Is Empathy Always a Good Thing?

40:45 Q&A: Is AI coming for us all?


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Theme song: Icarus Lives by Periphery, used with permission from Periphery.

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