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Dec 2024
38m 48s

Episode 353: Dating And Relationship Tip...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

Most relationship advice is tailored to heterosexual folks. And while some of that is also applicable queer relationships, not all of it is. Queer relationships are unique and therefore need relationship advice that’s tailored to them. My guest today has a forthcoming book that offers a relationship guide for gay men, so that’s what we’re going to be talking about in this show.

I am joined by Tom Bruett, a licensed marriage and family therapist, trainer, consultant, and author who works extensively with the queer community. He is the founder of the Queer Relationship Institute, and author of the book The Go-To Relationship Guide for Gay Men: From Honeymoon to Lasting Commitment, which will be published in March 2025.

Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

  • What are the unique stages that gay men’s relationships go through?
  • What’s the deal with gay men and “daddy issues?”
  • For gay men who struggle to make a relationship last beyond the honeymoon stage, what do they need to know?
  • How can understanding your attachment style help in navigating dating and relationships?
  • How do you find a sex or relationship therapist who is knowledgable and gay-affirming?

You can learn more by checking out the Queer Relationship Institute’s Linktree.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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