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Jun 2024
43m 33s

Silent Struggles: How Gay Men Use Self-N...

Joel Wood & Keegan Hirst
About this episode

In this episode of "Silent Struggles," we explore a difficult but important topic: how some gay men use self-numbing to avoid feeling emotional pain. We'll talk about what self-numbing means, why it happens, and how it affects their lives. By sharing personal stories and expert insights, we aim to shed light on this issue and offer hope and understanding. Whether you're looking to learn more or support a loved one, this episode is here to help. Join us as we break the silence and start a conversation about healing and resilience.



Book recommendations:


Straight Jacket: Overcoming Society's Legacy of Gay Shame by Matthew Todd: https://amzn.to/3KvebK4


The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man's World by Alan Downs: https://amzn.to/3VDzvnj


Out of the Shadows: The Psychology of Gay Men's Lives by Walt Odets: https://amzn.to/3KtrydO



Check out these charities if you or someone you know needs help with addiction:


We Are With You: https://www.wearewithyou.org.uk/


Alcohol Change UK: https://alcoholchange.org.uk


Adam: https://adfam.org.uk


Hazeldean Betty Ford Foundation: https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org


Partnership to End Addiction: https://drugfree.org



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