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Fan Favorite: This episode originally aired on December 29, 2017. What up, homies! It's your girl Lisa Bilyeu, and welcome back to the Women of Impact podcast, where we're all about empowering you to live your best life. Today, we're delving into a topic that's close to my heart - relationships. And I'm thrilled to share the mic with none other than my partner-in-crime, Tom Bilyeu.


In this episode, we’re breaking down a concept that might sound a bit controversial: why being selfish could actually be the best thing for your relationship! Trust me, self-care isn't just about bubble baths and spa days, it's about making sure your own cup is full so you can truly show up for those you love.


Join Tom and I as we explore how prioritizing yourself can actually strengthen your connections. We're tackling the hard-hitting questions and sharing personal insights on balance, communication, and understanding how our individual needs play into the bigger picture of our relationships.


Grab your favorite cozy blanket, get comfortable, and let's get into this powerful discussion about love, life, and the pursuit of a healthier, happier you!


SHOWNOTES

00:00 Welcome to Relationship Theory

00:31 Holiday Season Reflections

01:09 Would You Rather Results

02:04 Balancing Business and Relationships

04:52 Essential Needs: Me Time vs. We Time

06:24 Navigating Selfish Desires

08:31 Importance of Communication

09:39 Managing Energy and Emotions

14:22 Addressing Conflicts and Priorities

18:43 Self-Care and Relationship Dynamics

23:24 Understanding Emotional Needs

28:09 "Would You Rather" Relationship Scenarios

31:27 Dealing with Disagreements

33:25 Strategies for Positive Energy


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