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Nov 2024
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Why Do Avoidant Attachment Styles Ghost ...

Thais Gibson | YAP Media
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In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive into the complex dynamics of ghosting, focusing on the behavior patterns of dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant attachment styles.


Join Thais and her co-host, Mike, as they unpack why dismissive avoidants often ghost during dating and relationships, shedding light on common misconceptions and the deeper fears that drive this behavior. They discuss the role of online dating culture in normalizing ghosting and how attachment wounds play a part in avoiding confrontation or difficult conversations.


The episode explores ghosting across different relationship stages, from early dating to long-term commitments, and the unique reasons why avoidant types may disengage without explanation. Thais shares personal stories and offers compassionate advice on how to handle being ghosted, focusing on self-worth and emotional healing.


Listeners will learn actionable steps to heal from the pain of ghosting, including how to reframe the experience, understand the attachment patterns at play, and build resilience. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who has faced ghosting or wants to deepen their understanding of attachment theory in modern relationships.


Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Intro

00:00:30 - Welcome & Introduction of Guest and Topic

00:01:18 - Overview of Avoidant Attachment Styles and Ghosting

00:02:50 - Online Dating Culture and Ghosting

00:05:18 - The Stages of Relationships and Ghosting at Each Stage

00:10:08 - Communication Challenges: Why People Ghost

00:13:09 - Handling the Emotional Impact of Being Ghosted

00:18:02 - Personal Story: The Experience of Being Ghosted

00:24:45 - Ghosting in Long-Term Relationships and the Consequences

00:28:46 - 14-Day Free Trial Mention for Healing Resources

00:30:18 - Ghosting by Fearful Avoidants: Personal Experiences

00:39:05 - Healing Strategies for the Anxious Attachment Style

00:44:08 - Balancing Reciprocity in Relationships

00:54:44 - Understanding Self-Worth in the Context of Ghosting

00:55:00 - Outro & Final Thoughts


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