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Apr 2025
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291: How to Flirt When You’re Not Confid...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

In this episode of the Love Life Podcast, Matthew, Audrey, Stephen, and producer David dive deep into one of the most common struggles in dating: flirting.

So many people feel stuck when it comes to creating chemistry, worrying they'll come off as desperate, awkward, or get rejected. This episode breaks down how to define “flirting” rather than just talking, and gives some simple-but-powerful ways to do it in early attraction.

🎯 Topics include:

  • Why people often lose their flirtatious spark when they like someone too much

  • The 4 most common flirting fears (based on poll results)

  • The difference between platonic, desire, and love language

  • How to flirt without being overly sexual or awkward

  • What “people-pleasing” energy looks like and how it kills seduction

  • Practical examples of flirtatious compliments that actually work

  • The secret ingredient: Tension, contrast, and slowing down

Plus, we have our regular segment “Steve’s Sleeves” with a fun game of Love Life Crew vs Matthew AI! 

💬 Feeling stuck knowing what to say? Download our free guide: 9Texts.com → 9 ready-to-use messages that spark interest, build attraction, and move things forward.

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📩 Have a question or want to send us your Matthew AI answers? Email: podcast@MatthewHussey.com

 

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