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Jun 2023
1h 7m

How to Be a Better Man, Featuring Alex M...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
As a single man, you likely battle fear from time to time—and not just on the dating scene.

Maybe you’re afraid to be emotionally vulnerable with people because you’ve been told it’s a sign of weakness.

Perhaps you get angry—at women, the world, yourself—and you can feel the shackles of toxic masculinity tighten around your wrists.

And you might be confused about how to date and flirt in the #MeToo Era (“Can I still make moves, or is that harassment?”)

Today’s special guest can help you navigate what it means to be a single man in 2023, both on and off the dating landscape.

In this episode of the Dating Transformation Podcast, host and dating coach Connell Barrett welcomes award-winning writer Alex Manley, author of the groundbreaking new book, “The New Masculinity: A Roadmap for a 21st-Century Definition of Manhood.”

A longtime dating editor for AskMen, Manley wrote “The New Masculinity” to give today’s men a blueprint to become more evolved, forward-thinking and progressive.

And take it from Connell: Women LOVE evolved, progressive men.

In this lively conversation, Alex shares a host of tips and insights on the art of being a better man, including…

✔ How to escape toxicity and anger, so you can be masculine as well as kind and open- hearted
✔ Why you WANT to be “friend-zoned” by women (That’s correct! It can be a good thing.)
✔ Three game-changing dating tips you can apply now, for stronger, more genuine connections
✔ Why pretending to be an “alpha male” can hurt your dating prospects
✔ Why you should NOT cold-approach random women (the rules have changed!), and what to do instead.

Listen now, so that Alex Manley can help you go from fearful and confused about your sense ofnself, to awakening a true, fulfilling new masculinity.

Quotes

"Being mysterious and being withholding and not communicating with your partner is not a winning strategy. It might work on people who have certain self-esteem issues, but for a healthy relationship, you need to be open, honest, and communicative.".." -Alex Manley

"It's important to remember that everyone has something to offer and something that makes them unique. You just have to be willing to look for it and appreciate it." - Connell Barrett

"Friendships between men and women can be incredibly valuable and rewarding, and can teach us a lot about ourselves and each other." - Alex Manley

Featured in the episode

Connelll Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website: https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation

Alex Manley
Dating Editor, AskMen
http://www.alexmanley.com/https://www.instagram.com/alex_icon/

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT “THE NEW MASCULINITY”:
http://www.ecwpress.com/products/the-new-masculinity

GO TO ASKMEN TO READ DATING ADVICE FROM ALEX MANLEY:
http://www.askmen.com

TO LEARN MORE ABOUT ALEX MANLY:
http://www.AlexManley.com

FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL, TO LEARN HOW TO ATTRACT YOUR DREAM RELATIONSHIP:
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