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Sep 2024
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John Gray - Are Men Still From Mars, Wom...

Connor Beaton
About this episode

Talking points: relationships, testosterone, estrogen, stress


I had John on the show years ago, and it seemed like the right time to ask: has anything changed since publishing his seminal book? Turns out the answer is yes—and no. Dig in with us as we cover John’s take on conflict, mindset, confidence, emotions, hormones, and a lot more!


(00:00:00) - How have things changed since you wrote your book, and do men and women deal with stress differently?

(00:16:40) - John’s take on why testosterone has become somewhat demonized, and the limits of talking about your feelings in a relationship

(00:36:32) - John on truth, and the meeting place of mindset and reality

(00:44:41) - The paradox of confidence and the comfort zone, and the basics of emotional processing

(00:56:25) - The balancing act that is testosterone and estrogen, and its effects on aggression and self-esteem


John Gray is the author of the most well-known and trusted relationship book of all time, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. USA Today listed his book as one of the top 10 most influential books of the last quarter-century. In hardcover, it was the #1 best-selling book of the 1990s. Dr. Gray’s books are translated into approximately 45 languages in more than 100 countries and continues to be a bestseller.


Dr. Gray has written over 20 books. His most recent book is Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Our Complex Modern World. His Mars/Venus book series has forever changed the way men and women view their relationships.


John helps men and women better understand and respect their differences in both personal and professional relationships. His approach combines specific communication techniques with healthy, nutritional choices that create the brain and body chemistry for lasting health, happiness, and romance.


Connect with John

-Website: https://www.marsvenus.com/

-Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/johngraymarsvenus_official/

-Books: https://www.marsvenus.com/books


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