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Nov 2024
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433: Attachment and the Inner Child with...

MICHELLE CHALFANT
About this episode

Hey there! Today, we’re journeying into the world of attachment theory and inner child work with the amazing Karen Gelstein. In this episode, we explore how early childhood bonds set the stage for our adult relationships. Whether you're navigating a romance or trying to keep the peace at work, understanding your attachment style is key. Are you secure, anxious, avoidant, or maybe a mix of it all? We've got you covered!

Karen, a seasoned trauma and addiction expert, joins us to shed light on the four primary attachment styles and how they play out in our daily lives. We'll chat about the impact of parenting styles and how to mend those pesky attachment wounds. Ever wondered why you're drawn to certain people or situations? This episode might just have the answers.

We'll also explore the role of modern technology in shaping our connections — spoiler alert: it's a mixed bag! Plus, Karen shares some practical tips for doing inner child work, emphasizing the power of self-awareness and emotional validation. 

In this episode, you will hear:
  • The four primary attachment styles: secure, insecure preoccupied, avoidant dismissive, and fearful avoidant.
  • Examination of how parenting styles and early childhood bonds influence attachment styles.
  • Insights into the role of inner child work in healing attachment wounds and fostering personal growth.
  • Impact of modern technology and social media on anxiety and attachment styles.
  • Strategies for improving communication, setting boundaries, and nurturing secure attachments.
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