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Nov 2024
2h 8m

Cheaters, Butlers, and Addicts

Kirk Honda
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Bobcast! Dr Kirk and Bob answer patron emails.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Insecurity & cheating 
22:12 What does Dr. Kirk think of Astoria, OR? 
23:22 Why haven't we had luck with a couples therapist? 
32:33 What is the cost of children diffusing family conflict?
48:55 OPP 2022 
50:44 Why is alcoholism considered a disease? 
1:13:45 How can I share my addiction with my family?
1:17:08 Do I drink because of trauma or because of alcoholism?
1:30:52 Bob's frustration & How can I connect with others in AA?
13719 Is addiction the opposite of connection? 
1:49:02 When Dr. Kirk quit smoking
2:05:07 Bob's pep talk


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November 13, 2024

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