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Nov 2024
1h 33m

Is the Potential Enough? How to know whe...

Shane Kohler
About this episode

Conscious Relationships are about being a space for two people to grow together but what rate of growth is truly acceptable? 

When someone says they want to change and become better but the change doesn't seem to be happening very quickly, how much time and space should we really give? What kinds of things should we tolerate and what other things are truly deal breakers?

This is such a confusing dynamic, especially when it's clouded by strong feelings for someone and a sincere desire to see the relationship go somewhere. It can be so easy to give a person way too many chances.

On the other hand, when we are too reactive and unwilling to be empathetic about someone's human limitations, it can be really easy to call out problems and leave a relationship that did have real potential had we been open to working on it. 

This episode offers a clear guide to navigating these confusing dynamics and identifying true potential early on so you can invest your energy in a relationship that can truly become something great!

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