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Nov 2024
26m 45s

The Process Is The Purpose (Principle 3)

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
About this episode

Welcome back to Shrink for the Shy Guy! In today’s episode, we dive into the third principle of sanity and victory: The Process is the Purpose.

We often chase outcomes, believing they’ll bring lasting happiness, but what if the true magic lies in the journey itself? Whether it's fitness goals, career achievements, or personal growth, embracing the process can transform your life. In this episode, I’ll share personal stories of striving and thriving, and reveal how shifting your focus from results to growth can lead to greater joy, peace, and success.

Discover how to reframe your goals, find purpose in the present, and become the person you’re meant to be—one step at a time. Let’s reclaim sanity and achieve victory together.

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Welcome to Today’s Episode: The Process is the Purpose

Hey there! I'm excited to continue our exploration of the eight principles of sanity and victory. Today, we’re diving into the third principle: The Process is the Purpose.

Recap of Previous Principles

Before we get into this principle, let's quickly recap the first two:

  1. I Am the Captain of My Ship: This principle emphasizes taking ownership of your life and choices instead of feeling like a victim of circumstances.
  2. Surrender is the Ultimate Life Skill: This is about letting go of control and aligning with the flow of life, accepting that while we can take action, we don’t control everything.

The Process is the Purpose

Now, let's unpack the third principle. Here’s the little text I wrote to remind myself about this principle:

The outcome is the carrot the divine uses to inspire. It is not the true purpose and it will not bring the permanent happiness you imbue it with. Withdraw the glamour from that fantasy and fully embrace the process. The process is the magic alchemy that transforms you into the next version you're meant to be. Seek out the discomfort, savor the victories, and feast on your life today.

Understanding the Principle

At its core, this principle is about shifting your focus from outcomes to the experiences and lessons found in the process. While we all have goals—be it personal, professional, or relational—focusing solely on the end result can lead to frustration, anxiety, and a sense of unfulfillment.

The Pitfalls of Outcome Obsession

When we become too fixated on the results we want, we risk losing sight of the joy and growth available in our day-to-day experiences. This can lead to stress, overwhelm, and even burnout. You may find yourself striving for a particular outcome, believing that once you achieve it, you will feel permanently happy. However, this is often an illusion.

A Personal Example

Let me illustrate this with my own experiences. In 2018, after overcoming chronic pain, I got back into physical fitness and strength training. I set a goal to get a specific physique, thinking that achieving a certain look would bring me happiness. I meticulously tracked my calories and macros, constantly worrying about whether I was on track. This mindset led me to a place of tension and stress. I labeled that time in my life “The Summer of Striving.” I was so fixated on the outcome that I missed out on the joy of the process.

Conversely, during a recent training period, I shifted my perspective. I realized that the joy of working out wasn’t just in the end result but in how strong and capable I felt each day. I focused on the process of becoming fitter and stronger rather than obsessing over the specific outcome. This mindset transformed my experience into something enjoyable and rewarding.

The Importance of Embracing the Process

So how can you apply this principle in your life? It starts by recognizing that the process itself—everything you learn and experience along the way—is the true reward. Embrace the discomfort and challenges that come with growth. Instead of rushing towards the finish line, find ways to appreciate the journey.

Action Step: Shift Your Focus

Your action step for this week is to identify an area in your life where you’re overly focused on the outcome. Take a moment to reflect on what you can appreciate about the process itself. Whether it's a hobby, a personal project, or a fitness goal, find joy in the everyday actions that lead you toward your aspirations.

Remember, life is about the journey, not just the destination. Embrace the process, savor the victories, and recognize that who you become along the way is just as important, if not more so, than the results you achieve.

Thank you for joining me today! I’m looking forward to exploring the next principle with you in our upcoming episodes. Until next time, embrace the journey and trust in the process!

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