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Nov 2024
56m 42s

Permission to be Vulnerable with Kier Ga...

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About this episode

It's the season finale of the R Spot, and Iyanla is talking with Kier Gaines, licensed therapist and speaker. They discuss how men can grow into good men and fathers without having that example in childhood. They talk about how men can permit themselves to be vulnerable and why holding their fellow men accountable is so important.   

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