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Nov 2024
35m 30s

50: Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with...

Anne Bland
About this episode

Redefining Erectile Dysfunction with Tantra on our 50th Episode!


In this milestone 50th episode of Tantric Sex for Lovers and Others, Anne Bland celebrates the shared journey and dives deep into erectile dysfunction, or as she reframes it, “flexible erection.” Rather than focusing on performance, this episode invites us to explore ED from a Tantra-inspired perspective that emphasises connection, presence, and mindful intimacy.


Episode Highlights


Reflecting on 50 episodes

Anne Bland shares the story of the podcast’s growth, inspired by listener feedback and a vision to destigmatise and enrich conversations around Tantra, intimacy, and personal growth.

Rethinking erectile dysfunction

Discover how ED, often seen as a “dysfunction,” can instead be viewed as an invitation to deeper connection. Anne offers a fresh perspective, steering away from performance pressure towards intimacy that isn’t defined by traditional markers of success.

A personal listener story

Anne reads a heartfelt listener email that beautifully captures how Tantra has transformed one man’s intimate life, showcasing the power of holistic practices.

Invitations to Pleasure Quests

Anne’s new eight-week courses, “Pleasure Quests,” one for males and one for females, are designed to support a deeper journey into self-pleasure, connection, and vitality. They build on her eBook "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools".


Whether you experience ED, know someone who does, or want to deepen your understanding of holistic intimacy, this episode offers invaluable insights. Join Anne as she redefines male and female experiences of arousal, expands the conversation around masculinity, and introduces gentle yet powerful Tantric tools for embracing a full-body approach to pleasure.


What you can do next is to:

• Join the Female Pleasure Quest and the Male Pleasure Quest here: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-quest

• Download the “Pleasure is Your Birthright” ebook: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/pleasure-is-your-birthright

• Leave a review to share your favourite episode or moment from the podcast!


Anne would love to hear from you! What’s been your favourite insight so far? Let her know via social media or email, and stay tuned as she continues delivering this podcast for the next 50 episodes.

Join the Pleasure Quest. There is one for female and another for male bodies.

Book a free 30-minute Zoom call to explore coaching

Download a FREE Pleasure Guide "Pleasure is Your Birthright - 7 Holistic Sex Tools."

Podcast website: https://www.selfishlyhappyyou.com/podcast

Email: annebland(at)selfishlyhappyyou.com

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