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Oct 2024
8m 49s

▶️ Play me when: You're Sad

Erika Cramer
About this episode

In this episode, I dive deep into the often-neglected emotion of sadness and why it's crucial to give ourselves permission to feel it fully.

Sometimes, we think we have to be happy, that we have to push through and keep a smile on, but the truth is—you’re allowed to feel sad. You’re allowed to grieve. You’re allowed to release the emotions that weigh on you, without judgment, and without needing a reason.

I remind you that sadness is not something to run from. In fact, embracing sadness can be healing.

I explore how grief, sadness, and allowing yourself time to cry can release the emotional burdens that, when bottled up, turn into a heavy armor around your heart. This armor may protect you from being hurt again, but it also blocks love, connection, and joy from coming in.

I share my own process of making space for sadness—whether it's crying in the car, screaming into a pillow, or sitting in stillness with my feelings. The act of releasing these emotions brings clarity, lightness, and a renewed sense of freedom.

Sadness is here to serve you, not to define you.

It’s just a moment. And after this moment of sadness, you’ll laugh again, feel joy again, and continue to move through life lighter and clearer.

Key Takeaways:

  • It’s okay to be sad—don’t feel guilty for taking the time to grieve or feel your emotions.
  • Sadness creates emotional clarity and releases the burdens we carry inside.
  • Crying or releasing emotions helps prevent emotional constipation—bottling up feelings only leads to emotional outbursts at inappropriate times.
  • Sadness doesn’t make you a sad or depressed person—it’s simply one of many emotions we feel.
  • Giving yourself space to process sadness leads to lightness, clarity, and emotional healing.
  • Embrace sadness without judgment, and understand that it’s part of the journey toward happiness, joy, and freedom.

Timestamps:

  • 00:00 – Introduction: Why sadness is an essential emotion to embrace
  • 01:16 – Releasing emotions: Giving yourself permission to grieve and be sad
  • 02:50 – Crying as healing: Why releasing tears is essential for your well-being
  • 04:04 – Grieving for yourself: Making space for emotional release
  • 05:45 – Embracing sadness: How this emotion helps create more room for joy and love
  • 07:30 – The importance of emotional release: Avoiding emotional constipation and bottling up feelings
  • 10:00 – Final thoughts: Making space in your calendar to release your emotions without judgment

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