About this episode
Understanding Emotions: Insights from Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett
- How our 'body budgets' affect our feelings
- How we make meaning from our feelings so our internal experience makes sense
- That we don't always understand other people's feelings very well!
The introduction to the theory plus the conversation plus the take-home messages would have made for an unwieldy episode, so I split it in half.
Today we conclude the conversation with Dr. Barrett and I also offer some thoughts about things I think are really important from across the two episodes, including:
- What we can do with the information our feelings give us
- How long we should support children in feeling their feelings (given that they don't always mean what we think they mean!) and when we should help them move on
- Some tools we can use to re-regulate in difficult moments with our kids
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Jump to Highlights
00:59 Introducing today’s episode and featured guests
05:01 People in chaotic or uncertain situations, like poverty or neurodivergence, face greater challenges due to the increased stress on their body budgets.
18:02 Understanding and managing personal needs as a parent, along with emotional flexibility, can lead to more effective responses to children.
23:46 Parents need to balance their own feelings with their children's by asking if their kids want empathy or help. They should remember that every interaction is a chance to teach kids how to manage their emotions.
31:07 Parents can view their empathy for their children as a sign of competence, balancing their own needs with their child's emotions.
34:22 Jen draws conclusions from Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett’s research on emotions, highlighting how parents can use this understanding to empower their children in navigating feelings and enhancing emotional literacy.
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