logo
episode-header-image
Sep 2024
46m 38s

#64 - From girl boss to girl moss: Findi...

Rowena Tsai & Vivian Van
About this episode

In case you haven’t heard, the hustle culture of being a "girl boss” is fading, and it’s time to welcome a more laid-back, organic approach to life. That’s right - we’re officially in our "girl moss" era!

While the idea of slowing down, reconnecting with hobbies, and prioritizing fun and playfulness sounds straightforward, we have found that transitioning to “girl mossing” hasn’t been as easy as we expected. This episode was sparked by the question “what do you like to do for fun?”, and how trying to answer this led us to confront the uncomfortable truth that maybe we both struggle with embracing fun in our adult lives.

Join us as we chat about how we can all begin to prioritize more joy and play by rethinking our relationship with time and tackling the mental blocks that keep us from starting or sticking with hobbies and interests!

Mentions:

  • E59 Viv’s solo: Stop being hard on yourself
  • E63 Ro’s solo: Learning to see the world sparkle again
  • Book: ⁠Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara https://amzn.to/3Xu2auo
  • Book: ⁠Designing Your Life⁠ by Bill Burnett & Dave Evans https://amzn.to/4gnjZUA

Voice Hugs:

--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/voicehugs/support
Up next
Jan 2025
#75 - Season 2 Finale: Embracing the Unknown in Marriage, Motherhood & Major Life Transitions
🎙️ And with that, the 2nd season of Voice Hugs has come to an end 🎵 As always, to wrap up another wonderful 365 days around the sun, we’re sharing upcoming big life changes, along with lessons we learned from the year from growing pains, our friendship, and the unexpected twist ... Show More
49m 53s
Dec 2024
#74 - Dealing with insecurities and social anxiety
Insecurities ~ yep, we all have them (ugh, right?) In this episode, we share moments that have made us feel insecure—from the fear of farting in public to stressing over what to wear to a party, and even the networking and small talk that make you want to hide. Whether it’s the f ... Show More
53m 51s
Dec 2024
#73 - Lacking motivation *again*
Lacking motivation? This time of year got us feeling some type of way… Whether we’re beating ourselves over all the things we didn’t do this year, or brimming with hope for a fresh start that’s right around the corner, you’re not alone in feeling either or BOTH feelings at the sa ... Show More
43m 12s
Recommended Episodes
Jan 2025
103. WHATADO: Embracing Where You Are While Pursuing More in 2025
Get up to 10 FREE meals and a free high protein item for life at https://hellofresh.com/notforeveryone10fm. __ Happy New Year, kooks! This week, Jess and Caroline discuss a few listener WHATADOs that revolve around goals for 2025. Think finding the right motivation, working throu ... Show More
1h 24m
Oct 2024
92. Not for Goodbyes + How to Start Owning Your Unique Strengths
Ever heard of micro acts of feminism? No? Well consider that problem solved because Jess and Caroline have all the details. Listen in on to find out what that even means, how they define their relationships to feminism, how they own their strengths, and how we can learn from the ... Show More
1h 5m
Aug 2024
84. Not for Flirty Husbands + The Best Part About Asking for Help
This episode is sponsored by Zocdoc. Go to https://www.zocdoc.com/notforeveryone/ to try it today. __ Your fav duo is back and more upset about things than ever. A WHATADO about a husband being too flirty with friends leads Jess and Caroline to discussions about gray areas in ask ... Show More
1h 18m
Jun 2025
Anxious attached with an Avoidant - Becoming Secure Together (Special Anniversary Episode!)
It’s our 6-year wedding anniversary (!!) and today I brought my husband Craig on the podcast for the realest conversation about love, growth, and the journey from spiraling to secure. We’re answering your juiciest Qs: ✨ What it’s really like when anxious meets avoidant ✨ Our prop ... Show More
43m 55s
Jul 2024
80. Not for Eye Contact + Stop Chasing the First Date Spark
In today’s episode, we’ve got just about every Segment™ in the book for you. Jess and Caroline’s scientific minds put together a theory on attractiveness, a reason we say “you know?” so much, and a realistic take on disappointing people. Also, there’s a NEW segment, folks: Lady S ... Show More
1h 6m
Aug 5
What I’m Still Healing (Even as a Relationship Coach)
Ever feel like you're doing all the inner work, listening to every podcast, journaling your heart out and still fall back into the same anxious spirals or overthinking loops? SAME. In this raw and real episode, I’m pulling back the curtain and sharing what I’m still healing… even ... Show More
19m 36s
Mar 2025
112. Hater Hour: Overcoming Imposter Syndrome, Leaving Mormonism, and Making Adult Friendships | ft. Prince Abi Our Editor!
It’s about time we had another Hater Hour…and in this episode, Caroline is joined by Not For Everyone Editor Prince Abi! They’ve got lots to say about listener submissions, including discussions about freelancing, working together while maintaining their friendship, building a li ... Show More
1h 37m
Aug 31
A Heartbreaking Month: Now It’s Radical to Keep Loving (A Casual Debrief)
Hiii friends, how is your heart today?Welcome to our second ever Casual Debrief episode. This is the space where I reflect on everything that happens behind and in-between each podcast episode. Let’s discuss the details: let the debrief commence!Timestamps0:00 Welcome back friend ... Show More
29m 50s
Oct 2024
How To Lighten Your Mental Load Before The End Of The Year
Jemma Sbeg from The Psychology Of Your 20s podcast joins us to chat about mental hygiene, hacks to manage anxiety & how to avoid burnout as we head into the busiest part of the year.  LINKS & RECEIPTS Listen to the Psychology Of Your 20s podcastFollow @thatpsychologypodcast on IG ... Show More
36m 6s
Mar 2025
289: How To Overcome Your Biggest Dating Insecurities
In this episode, we dive deep into the biggest challenges people face in dating — from rejection and insecurity to feeling like the odds are stacked against you.  Whether you feel stuck due to age, lack of experience, body image, or financial worries, this episode is packed with ... Show More
1h 17m