Sep 2024

42m 58s

232. Why do we hate criticism?

About this episode

When someone criticises us we naturally feel on edge and defensive. This is because criticism threatens our ego and our sense of self and so we have a very emotional reaction. But that doesn't have to be the case. In today's episode, we break down:

What makes us so sensitive to criticism
Hypercritical parenting and an aversion to feedback
Rejection sensitivity and criticism
The differences between criticism and feedback
How to properly approach criticism
When the criticism isn't worth your time

All of that and more as we unpack the psychology behind criticism. Listen now!

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