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Mar 2022
21m 28s

30. Handling Criticism as an HSP

Alissa Boyer
About this episode

Our heart starts racing, our stomach drops to the floor, and we feel under attack. Even if you’re not an HSP, criticism is painful to receive and, in all honesty, it can bring out our Hyper Sensitivity and anger.


Sometimes the feedback and criticism is there to genuinely help us and sometimes it's just a mean troll on the internet. Either way our bodies tend to react in the same way and so we need a healthy way to cope with these feelings and to move through them so we can be the best that we can be.


In this episode, you'll learn:

  • Why criticism affects us so much.
  • how to discern hurtful criticism versus helpful criticism.
  • How to deal with feedback from loved ones.



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