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Apr 2024
27m 10s

#202: Dealing with Criticism

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

If you’re human, then you’ve probably received criticism. Though it can be quite unpleasant, your ability to encounter criticism and not let it affect you is directly proportionate to both your self-esteem and self-worth.

In this episode, you will learn...

  • the 2 different types of criticisms
  • what makes certain criticism hurt so badly (and how to not let it affect you)
  • 3 questions to ask yourself before listening to other people’s opinions

Remember: don’t choose a stranger’s criticism over your intuition, your values, and your heart.

If you enjoyed this episode, screenshot it and tag @maryspodcast on social media! And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love:

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.

  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

Mentioned In This Episode...
Mary’s Body-Image TEDx talk: https://youtu.be/DoDzwM0gybg?si=P3kfRMBBdFgTMOAI
Mary’s IG reel that went viral and got criticized: https://www.instagram.com/reel/C5l6-_fvZCS/?igsh=ZDJrYjA0aXpzM2ww
The 4 Agreements book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1878424319/ref=cm_sw_r_as_gl_api_gl_i_AJC459ZTT9B1T36FX5ZR?linkCode=ml2&tag=maryscupoft0b-20

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