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Sep 2024
1h 32m

were you under-mothered? exploring the ...

Mollie Adler
About this episode

Have you ever felt a deep sense of isolation from your family, an intense awareness of death, or a constant craving for emotional nurturing from partners who just can't meet your needs? These feelings might be linked to a concept known as "Mother Hunger."


In this episode, I delve into the profound and often hidden impact of being under-mothered—a condition where the essential maternal nurturing, protection, and guidance were lacking during your formative years, leading to what is often referred to as the "mother wound." Drawing from the insights of experts like Kelly McDaniel and Dr. Oscar Serrallach, you'll explore how inadequate maternal care can shape your emotional landscape and influence your relationships throughout life.


You'll learn about the symptoms of Mother Hunger, including emotional immaturity, delayed grief, and transferred needs. I'll discuss the generational transmission of this emotional wound and the societal pressures that perpetuate it, emphasizing the need for understanding and compassion. You'll also discover practical steps towards healing, from seeking trauma-informed care and building safe relationships to engaging in specific therapeutic approaches like Attachment-Focused EMDR and Somatic Experiencing.


By the end of this episode, you'll gain a deeper understanding of how to address and heal from these deep-seated emotional wounds.


References:

the mother wound: sacred scars as a portal to healing [back from the borderline episode]

manipulative love: narcissistic mothers, enmeshed parentified children, and emotional incest [back from the borderline episode exploring Jeannette McCurdy’s book “I’m Glad My Mom Died]

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself by Nedra Glover Tawwab


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The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional.


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