Episode 669: Stages Your Avoidant Ex Goe...

If you're wondering what actually hurts an avoidant ex after a breakup, it 's usually not what most people think.In this episode, I break down what really gets through to an avoidant ex, what keeps them emotionally shut down and why trying to "fix" things often backfires.Get coac ... Show More

Why is your ex so distant, cold and shut down?In this episode, I break down what that behavior means after a breakup and why trying to force connection will backfire.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookInstagram#exback #getexback #noco ... Show More

When an avoidant pulls away, it's easy to assume they're relieved, unbothered and already moving on. But that's not always what's happening.In this video, I break down what your silence does to an avoidant after a breakup or pullback and why no contact can shift the dynamic.Get c ... Show More

After a breakup, we don’t just miss the other person — we often miss the version of ourselves we were with them. In this episode, Dora shares how relationships reflect parts of us, why it hurts when that mirror breaks, and how to reconnect with the playful, confident, free self t ... Show More

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into what I call the final 10% of breakup recovery—that last stretch where you feel mostly healed, but still find yourself thinking about your ex, feeling frustrated, or just not quite “over it” yet. I talk through why this stage can feel so un ... Show More

<p>This episode shares the time line in which the avoidant show interested  in the rebound, starts to withdraws and goes back to their ex. </p><p>The episode talks about why Avoidant Attached jumps into soon after a break<br/> up, what their intentions are when returning to and w ... Show More

When a relationship ends without warning, it’s common to feel blindsided, confused, and deeply hurt. This is often labelled the “avoidant discard” — but while that term might feel validating in the moment, it can also keep you stuck in a disempowering story.In this episode, we’ll ... Show More

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what ... Show More

<p>When traumatized people date, it’s easy to detach from reality, and create elaborate constructs that explain why other people do what they do, and why we feel hurt by it – without having to actually admit what's really happening. In this video I respond to a letter from a woma ... Show More

Breakups can be devastating and can feel really lonely. Many of us carry guilt, shame, and sadness. Most of the time we do not know how to process those emotions so instead, we find ways to hide and numb our feelings. I know I've had some toxic breakups in my past which helped me ... Show More

Find my course "Finding Your W.H.Y. Healing From Narcissistic Abuse" at https://mentalhealness.netHow long should you stay No Contact with a narcissist? In this video, I explain the real answer to how long No Contact should last - whether it's with a narcissistic partner, parent, ... Show More

If you’re heartbroken right now, this episode is for you. This week, K+L discuss the psychological and physical impacts of ending a relationship. The girls are your personal guides through the process of feeling these intense emotions, creating healthy post-breakup routines, and ... Show More

<p>Feeling helpless watching a loved one struggle through a breakup or divorce? In this episode, we tackle the challenge head-on with ten actionable ways to provide real support. From validating their emotions to shifting their mindset and offering practical resources, learn how ... Show More