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Sep 2024
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Episode 669: Stages Your Avoidant Ex Goe...

LUCIA
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How long does it take an avoidant ex to realize they made a mistake in breaking up with you?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia reveals the first 3 stages an avoidant goes through after a breakup when you do no contact.

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