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Sep 2024
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Narcissistic Mothers and the Scapegoat G...

Lisa A. Romano
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Narcissistic Mothers and the Scapegoat-Golden Child Trap

 In this episode of the Breakdown to Breakthrough Podcast, we delve into the toxic dynamics often found in families with narcissistic mothers, focusing on the devastating roles of the scapegoat and the golden child. Lisa A. Romano, a leading expert in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery, breaks down how these roles are created, maintained, and manipulated by narcissistic mothers to uphold their fragile egos and maintain control over the family narrative.

Listeners will gain insight into how a narcissistic mother’s need for validation and superiority often results in one child being idolized as the golden child while another is targeted as the scapegoat. This divisive dynamic not only pits siblings against each other but also inflicts deep emotional wounds that can take a lifetime to heal.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understanding the Roles: Learn about the characteristics of the scapegoat and golden child roles, and how these roles serve a narcissistic mother’s need for control.
  • The Impact on Siblings: Explore the long-term psychological effects of being cast as the scapegoat or golden child, including issues with self-esteem, relationships, and identity.
  • Breaking Free: Lisa offers strategies for recognizing these toxic dynamics and steps for healing and reclaiming your sense of self, whether you were the scapegoat, the golden child, or an outsider looking in.
  • Rebuilding Relationships: Discover how to navigate the complicated relationships between siblings who have been pitted against each other and how to set healthy boundaries with a narcissistic mother.

Quote from the Episode: "You didn’t ask to be the scapegoat, and you didn’t ask to be the golden child. These roles were thrust upon you by a mother who needed to control the narrative of her life at your expense. Understanding this is the first step toward reclaiming your power.

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